The soldier 

I’m still on the look out for the right guy to join me and hubby for a MFM threesome.
I approached the Soldier myself and I was pretty up front and to the point. I was feeling a bit doubtful of my other options so I was taking a shot in the dark. Luckily we got chatting and things progressed smoothly to exchanging numbers.

I found out he was in the military from his whatsapp picture. I was terrified and intrigued at the same time. I might explain a bit more on why that was at another time. 

I was really prepared for fuckry when we went to meet him but he actually seems down to earth, empathetic and level headed which is nice. Based on what he’s told us so far I suspect he’s in a combat based role. But I haven’t been asking those kind of questions.

I’ve learnt not to rely on text conversations and pictures to give a full impression of a person. But I must say I was even surprised by how much better he was in person. He is as tall as he says he is, very muscular, well presented, good skin and very nice to look at. 

He’s disclosed to me that he’s trying to be more comfortable talking about sex and I respected his honesty. He got on well with Hubby which is of the upmost of importance. We chatted about everything from our most recent escapades, to our backgrounds and politics. 

I texted him when we got back home and told him straight that I was interested and there were no hard feelings if he wasn’t. I woke up the next day to find out that he also wanted to go ahead with that threesome.

It’s clear he likes me a lot. ‘Often’ and ‘regularly’ are words he uses to describe how he wants to see me since we first met for drinks. This took me aback. I’m not sure what that means because to me it means once a week/once a month. That level of frequency to me can start bordering on relationship territory. Every now and again seems more appropriate if we were to ever link up again after this. 

But anyway, we’ve set a date for sometime soon and I’m really looking forward to it.

The Catfish: Block and Delete

Like I may have said before, trying to arrange a MFM threesome is a lot harder that people envisage it to be.

My issue hasn’t been getting people who are willing to fuck me, but the problem has rather been about who is suitable, reliable and honourable. 

Recently some guy tried to catfish me. From the beginning I was a bit wary and I couldn’t put my finger on it.

I put an ad up where I was very specific about what we were looking for. This guy responded to it without including a picture (despite the ad requiring this). I still responded to him saying nothing was gonna happen without a pic. He did send one without a face, holding up a handwritten sign saying ‘peaches’. A reference he had used in the email. So I gave him my kik ad. 

The chats we had were pretty hot and engaging, however I wasn’t committed as I had the suspicion the pictures he sent me were maybe of two different people. So that was something I wanted to get to the bottom of. He was pretty talkative, almost too much, but he still seemed evasive to me. I asked him one time what his availability was for the week to see if he was serious and he said he didn’t know. No effort to give a time frame or anything, yet he kept asking me for nudes. That’s a big red flag to me. So when he asked me for nudes I asked him to send me a selfie first. This guy sent me a picture of *himself* with a hand over his face! 

I can sometimes be paranoid because of my anxiety and so it’s hard for me to give in to gut feelings. But this time my feelings were validated. I blocked and deleted him and never looked back. 

The academic

So trying to sort out a MFM is a bit more complicated than I think most people assume. So far we’ve met two guys and I’ve been talking to a few others.
One of the guys me and hubby have met is a lecturer/academic…lets call him the academic. He’s cute and good looking with very nice skin and we all got on well when we went for drinks. He’s very obviously passionate about his field of study, but I also think he was talking a lot about it because he’s shy/nervous. I think its going to be difficult going from deep chats about history and theory to fucking. I still want to do this but I think it might be best if he’s not the first.
I’m trying to decide how best to play this as he doesn’t seem that comfortable talking about sex or rather he doesn’t go into details although he’s clearly interested. So far I’ve been approaching him like how I would do a girl who is newer to things than me: i.e being friendly, gently asking what he likes/doesn’t like, a bit of flirting and trying to make him feel more comfortable and able to be open. 
So far this approach has brought interesting results. You can tell he ovethinks everything and is sometimes unsure of how to react lol. I’m kind of like that so I can kind of relate. He’s still in thesis mode when he texts compliments which is funny, endearing and slyly annoying at the same time. But he’s done stuff like this before so I think either he’s gonna have to loosen up with some alcohol and/or I’m going to have to take the lead. I like taking the lead at times but it kind of goes against my rule of ‘not running a man down’. But whose to say a man can’t also be nervous? Let’s see how it goes. 

MFM threesome

So after a lot of pondering and discussion, I’m now looking into trying out a threesome with me, my husband and another guy.

I’m gonna write posts about my progress but they wine necessarily be in chronological order. I’ll sort that out later.